I had to delete the site and go through the process again. Luckily I had all my copy saved in a word document, so I was able to copy-paste everything. I only had minor stylistic things to redo.
I think I messed with wp-admin and made too many changes without logging what I was doing, so in the end I could not undo it all. The issue for me was the greyed out links, and when I changed the settings in wp-admin, there were no changes. I followed the steps I found in the forum exactly, and it's worked out now.
Thanks for getting back to me!